The Path of Self Acceptance
Learning to accept yourself is the hardest thing you can do, and it feels even worse when you’re constantly being reminded of the things that you are not. But the beauty of it all is knowing once you’ve embraced the darkness that’s when you retrieve all of your power. Let’s talk about it.
The harsh reality Friend, is that there are some people on Earth that just WON’T FUCKING LIKE YOU!
Is it fair? No.
Do they give a fuck? No.
Regardless of how kind you are or, even if you’re not looking for trouble, there are people designed to dislike you just because you are breathing. Some of them will go to great lengths to destroy you. Why?
Because while their personal demons have nothing to do with you, misery undoubtedly loves company. We don’t even have to get into all of the possible reasons because some people may not have a valid reason. But it’s clear bitterness will always seek out another space to spoil.
the most obvious example is bullying and trolling but, it may show up in other forms like someone blatantly ignoring you after you’ve greeted them, or every thing you say is met with a negative response. Toxicity knows no bounds, and can come from any person, place, or thing.
For some you may have had the experience of being raised in toxicity, and you being the black sheep usually makes a prime target. I overstand this one. As a result you may have grown up with low-self esteem, no confidence or self-worth, and you may have found yourself looking for love in all of the wrong places. Eventually becoming live prey to other Wolves in Sheep’s clothing, only out to get what they can from you and leaving you exhausted, dry, broke, broken, depressed, suicidal, and still craving for someone to see the great person that you are on the inside, not just what you have to offer. the truth is babe, THEY ALREADY DO and it’s exactly why they work so hard to ignore or neutralize you. As long as you’re accepting crumbs and unsure of yourself they’re good.
When people clock that you don’t know your own power they will always play on your insecurities, tapping on your root chakra, playing on your anxieties, and will often us affection as a tool against you. Especially in relationships, when that partner is jealous, or insecure within themselves, they’ll often do all they can to make you sabotage yourself—usually by stressing you out, creating lose-lose scenarios where no matter how bad you want to resolve it they’ll work to do the opposite. This happens alot in platonic relationships, when “Friends” see you rising, or even with your parents. The more the know about you the easier it is to target what you don’t like about yourself and play on it until they’ve gotten you exactly where they need you, pliable for their use.
Ever notice that when you’re down that’s when those negative folks really start demanding more of you? But NEVER have any helpful advice or motivation outside of “It’ll be all right". Watch them people, they low key hate you, and are waiting for the right time to kill you. Extreme I know, but in some cases, very much the truth, and when you’re gone they’ll fight over the final pieces of you or what you left behind. scavengers.
The key to maintaining your power in this is to STOP GIVING A FUCK.
Stop seeking approval, love, or acceptance from anyone or anything outside of yourself because it will never hit as good as it can when you’re filled with self-love and self validation. The work that you put in to rise out of the darkness is no easy task, and the majority of people choose to sit in that stank because the amount of work it takes to do better is more than they’re willing to put in.
Distance yourself where you can. create the proper boundaries that say “I hear what you’re saying, but IDGAF”. This may be with something as simple as “Ok.”
In this season especially, people will be working overtime to pull you out of your element, crashing out, acting childish, almost begging to create a situation where they can feed off of your energy. They will try to hurt your feelings, piss you off—use all of the old tricks.
Maintain your ground, stay prayed up for clarity and protection, keep your spiritual hygiene up by keep your physical body clean and using those tools, oils, scriptures, whatever to keep the misery at bay. Stay out of gossip, and things that don’t concern you (especially if you come from a toxic family dynamic).
Spend more time focusing on what makes you happy. If you don’t know what that is NOW is the time to figure it out. It’s not going to be an over night thing, and it’s a process where you may being to feel lonelier than you’ve felt before. allow it to happen.
try some mirror work, positively affirm yourself every morning. tell yourself you are MORE than your current situation, and what’s truly meant for you, will not pass you by. Understand though, the people that fall away from your life are also the ones that spirit will not allow you to elevate with. Them blessings ain’t coming with them crabs in the bucket.
start affirming now that this is your time, show yourself more love by choosing to say “a’ight then, bye.” and having compassion for yourself to take ownership of the things that you allowed or reacted to (especially if it ws justified) and not beating yourself up about it.
Lastly, it’s very important to know that forgiveness isn’t an automatic “go” and you choose when you want to forgive someone. This also doesn’t mean that they have to stay in your life, even if you still love them—FUCK ‘EM.
Take everything that was ever said about you, or anything used to terrorize you, and use it to create something spectacular within yourself. That’s what you call alchemy! and in this Aries season it’s time to become to rising phoenix. It starts with listening and trusting YOU.
